Do you agonize over holiday gift-giving?
I do.
Every single year, even when I tell myself (and J) that I’m not going to.
I make a list of the people we need to get gifts for. Then, I try to figure out what we should get them. It’s like I’m trying to come up with the perfect gift or something. I look at sales flyers. I search websites for gift ideas.
Yes, my perfectionism even extends to gift-giving. Heh.
What is the definition of a perfect gift, anyway? Well, it’s something that the recipient will really, really like and will thank me for from now on. “Wow, remember when you got me that _____? That was awesome!”
But the other primary criterion is that it must fit in our budget.
I go through several phases during this “What should we give x?” process. There’s the early list which includes the names and initial ideas. My attempt to short-circuit the decision-making process by getting all the shopping done quickly and decisively.
Yeah right. A few days pass and the things that seemed like good ideas a few days ago, no longer seem appealing.
Then, I begin searching the flyers or the internets, in earnest. Now, nothing seems OK, except stuff that’s just out of our budget, which is a lot of things.
Frustrated, I go to the store for stuff we actually need and end up impulse buying several things to be given as gifts.
Cool, I think. I’ve got a couple people taken care of.
A few days later: why in the hell did I buy that? Maybe I could give it to Bob instead of John. But then what should I get John? Or maybe I could give them both the same thing?
And so it goes. On and on. I’m giving myself a headache just writing this.
And then there’s the whole “well, we’re on a budget, so I could make some homemade gifts. . . But, when am I going to find the time to make quilts for everyone? (last year it was knitting scarves) . . . Well, maybe if you started now. It’s still early enough . . . . Yeah, but by the time you buy the materials and the patterns, guides, and babysitter time, it’s just as much as if you bought something. . . But homemade gifts are nice. . . They are nice to give to people who actually appreciate them . . .”
Argh.
And then there’s also the last minute “Oh crap. Am I supposed to give something to so-in-so? Oh, and what about our next door neighbors? Should we give them something? Maybe I’ll bake something for them. Bake something? When do you have time to do that? When I’m taking a break from working on the quilts, of course, silly.”
I’m 34 years old. You’d think I’d have this figured out by now.